Yes, happyness with a y. I define happyness  as a prolonged contentment with life. I was thinking about this yesterday, as most of my posts so far have been financially related. Sure I have my financial goals, things I am working towards. And I will be happy when I reach them and can set even higher goals. 

What state of mind would I be when I reach these goals? Will I be elated, overcome with joy, or will I nod my head quietly while scribbling down more goals? If I had a 100 million right now would I be happy? How long would I celebrate? How long would the feeling last? A friend of mine, who is a self-made millionaire, asked me “Vijay, at what point is your goal enough? Is their a real difference between having $5 million and $10 million?” His answer, with wealth in between that range, was no there is not. And he lives a great life, he even has his own travel bus fully equipped. 

I would like to think I know what more money and wealth would buy me. We can think of material things, better technology, nicer houses, nicer cars, and fancier trips. Those are a given. Somehow though I don’t think they would impart lasting happyness. 

What that wealth would get me are three things: Freedom, Time, and Peace of Mind. I would have the Freedom to pursue what I wanted and with whom. I would have the Time to pursue activities when I wanted. Peace of mind would come from Freedom and Time. Above all Health would be more important and tie all three together.

I think that would lead me on a beginning path to happyness. I have realized happyness is about enjoying the small things, when and how they happen, sometimes intangible and ethereal, right in the moment. Hugs with the family give me happyness. Meeting good friends gives me happyness. Having a positive attitude gives me happyness. Giving an encouragement to someone that needs it gives me happyness. Helping others gives me happyness. Leaving a legacy of helping others after my time passes would give me lots of happyness. I have vowed to myself to look for more moments of happyness in my life and to actively cultivate them. 

We are all in this life together. Everything is interrelated. Research has shown that groups that work together have a better chance of survival over time compared to an individual working solely for their own benefit. This is contrary to commonly held theories of evolution. By helping others we help ourselves, we make ourselves more resilient and mentally stronger. 

Happyness. It is such a simple concept. Most of us miss it, ignore it, or just pass it by. Happyness sits in a corner, biding her time. She’s always there for us, willing to play. We just have to make time for her. And the best part is anyone can enjoy happyness, irrespective of how much money, wealth, or status they have. She’s extremely equitable. 

Thanks for reading friends. Be well and seek out Happyness in your life.

Vijay @ smilingdad

Published by smilingdad

My story is one of tragedy and redemption. We've made many mistakes along the way regarding our money. Our goal here is to show you how to take care of your money life long, and as much as we can, help the Earth along the way. I call it sustainable personal finance and ethical capitalism. Currently, I am a part time writer for Cleantechnica and part-time licensed financial professional, along with being a full-time dad.

3 thoughts on “Happyness

    1. I am honored you have nominated me for the Sisterhood of World Blogging Award. Thank you. 🙂 Does it matter I am a guy? I plan to look over your questions and will consider them carefully before responding in a new post. Thanks for following my efforts and cheers to you as well. 🙂

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      1. 🙂 I thought about the same thing! 🙂 I did not think you being a guy or a girl would matter; for me it is a way to acknowledge and connect great bloggers together (honestly i do not know much about these awards either) 🙂

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